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Milestone
Test
22nd MILESTONE TEST
Q1. What is the primary purpose of creating a hierarchy of relationship goals?
a) To ensure one partner's needs are always prioritized over the other's
b) To resolve arguments by aligning on shared values and priorities
c) To eliminate all potential conflicts within the relationship
d) To help partners determine who is right in a disagreement
Q2. What can happen if partners are out of sync with their priorities?
a) They will always argue and never reach resolutions
b) They may have conflicting interpretations and fail to understand each other
c) They will both lose interest in the relationship
d) They will automatically align after some time
Q3. What question should couples focus on when facing disagreements?
a) Who is right?
b) What went wrong?
c) What’s most important?
d) How do we win this argument?
Q4. What is the risk of basing discussions on assumptions or opinions?
a) It encourages partners to share their feelings openly
b) It creates a harmonious balance between differing viewpoints
c) It leads to chaos and miscommunication, like "white noise"
d) It ensures quicker resolution of conflicts
Q5. What’s recommended when unsure about your partner's statement or intent?
a) Assume the meaning based on past experiences
b) Ask for clarification to avoid misinterpretation
c) Wait until your partner brings it up again
d) Respond immediately to avoid conflict
Q6. Which of the following is an example of jumping to conclusions without verifying facts?
a) "Tom told me that you were talking behind my back."
b) "You never help out around the house. I always end up doing everything myself."
c) "You took so long to reply to me, so I thought you didn’t like my idea."
d) "Everyone thinks that…"
Q7. Why might the statement "Everyone thinks that…" be problematic?
a) It provides verifiable evidence to support claims
b) It invites open dialogue and understanding
c) It generalizes opinions without factual evidence, potentially leading to misunderstandings
d) It clarifies the speaker’s intent and feelings
Q8. What is the suggested process for couples to establish their relationship priorities?
a) Each partner decides their own goals without consulting the other
b) Work together to create a logical, hierarchical list of priorities and agree on it
c) Use a pre-made list of goals without making changes
d) Prioritize romantic needs above all other aspects
Q9. When prioritizing tasks, what is the recommended approach for balancing short-term and long-term impacts?
a) Always focus on short-term gains to solve immediate problems
b) Prioritize long-term benefits over short-term gains
c) Ignore long-term impacts in favor of urgent needs
d) Choose tasks with the least resistance regardless of impact
Q10. Why is it important to regularly review and update a couple's hierarchy of priorities?
a) To ensure the list remains static and unchanging over time
b) To reflect evolving needs and goals as circumstances change
c) To avoid disagreements by keeping the same priorities forever
d) To simplify the process by reducing the number of priorities
Q.11 How can couples identify what is essential when setting priorities?
a) By asking the same questions in different ways to clarify the must-haves
b) By assuming that all priorities are equally important
c) By avoiding discussions to prevent disagreements
d) By focusing only on urgent tasks without considering long-term impact
Q12. What is the primary message of the "React or Respond" concept?
a) You cannot control external events, but you can control how you choose to respond to them.
b) Criticisms from others should always be ignored completely.
c) Emotions should be suppressed to avoid reacting to criticism.
d) Our personality is entirely determined by genetics and upbringing.
Correct answers: 1-b, 2-b, 3-c, 4-c, 5-b, 6-c, 7-c, 8-b, 9-b, 10-b, 11-a, 12-a
23rd MILESTONE TEST
Q1. What is the primary focus of mastering relationship languages?
a) Assuming your partner understands your needs without explanation
b) Learning how to express emotions, recognize love signals, and apologize when needed
c) Avoiding conflict by suppressing emotions
d) Using self-analysis to change your partner's behavior
Q2. What is a key challenge of merging love experiences between partners?
a) Partners always have identical life experiences and values
b) Differences in ethnic backgrounds, life experiences, and gender can create misunderstandings
c) Assuming that love communication is unnecessary for a lasting relationship
d) Believing that self-analysis guarantees mutual understanding
Q3. What often determines the quality of a lasting and healthy relationship?
a) The frequency of conflict resolution
b) The compatibility of life goals
c) The quality of love communication between partners
d) The assumption of shared values and beliefs
Q4. Which of the following is an example of the "Acts of Service" love language?
a) Giving flowers or handmade gifts
b) Holding hands or giving a massage
c) Making breakfast or running errands
d) Saying, "I miss you" or "You are amazing"
Q5. Why is it important to know yours and your partner's love language?
a) To avoid misunderstandings and create a stronger bond in the relationship
b) To ensure all love expressions are focused on giving gifts
c) To prioritize verbal communication over other expressions of love
d) To determine which partner's love language should dominate
Q6. What is the primary purpose of understanding and using apology languages?
a) To ensure every apology is accepted without question
b) To apologize in a way that makes all parties feel heard and valued
c) To avoid apologizing by diverting the focus to gratitude
d) To minimize misunderstandings by limiting verbal apologies
Q7. Which of the following is an example of "Making Restitution" in an apology language?
a) “I feel ashamed for how I hurt you.”
b) “This is how I will make it up to you...”
c) “Will you forgive me for letting you down?”
d) “I was wrong for doing that to you.”
Q8. What is the purpose of starting conversations by expressing your feelings?
a) To argue and prove the other person wrong
b) To create a smoother transition to discussing consequences
c) To avoid discussing tangible facts
d) To make the other person agree with your feelings
Q9. What does the FBI method stand for in effective communication?
a) Feeling, Behavior, Impact
b) Fact, Belief, Influence
c) Feeling, Boundaries, Intent
d) Fact-Based Interaction
Q10. What is the key principle in conflict resolution to avoid misunderstandings?
a) Making assumptions to fill in gaps of information
b) Establishing and focusing on observable facts
c) Focusing solely on personal emotions
d) Avoiding direct communication to reduce tension
Q11. Which formula is recommended for expressing upsets effectively?
a “I feel X, about Y, and I need Z” or “I feel X, when Y, and it would help Z”
b) “You made me feel X, and you need to fix Y”
c) “I feel X, but Y isn’t important, so let’s ignore it”
d) “You always do Y, which causes Z”
Q12. What does the "Requesting Forgiveness" apology language involve?
a) Expressing how sorry you feel
b) Committing to avoid repeating the mistake
c) Asking for the other person’s forgiveness explicitly
d) Offering restitution for the harm caused
Q13. What does the "Accepting Responsibility" apology language emphasize?
a) A promise to never repeat the mistake
b) Admitting fault and owning up to one’s actions
c) Asking for forgiveness explicitly
d) Offering a way to make amends
Correct answers: 1-b, 2-b, 3-c, 4-c, 5-a, 6-b, 7-b, 8-b, 9-a, 10-b, 11-a, 12-c, 13-b
24th MILESTONE TEST
Q1. What is required to maintain a healthy and passionate relationship long-term?
a) Falling in love and letting things flow naturally
b) Mindfulness, effort, and mutual intention
c) Avoiding conflicts and staying passive
d) Constantly seeking new relationships
Q2. What analogy is used to describe the balance of giving and receiving energy in a relationship?
a) A flowing river
b) The positive and negative poles of a battery
c) A ticking clock
d) A radio antenna
Q3. Why is it essential to keep recharging "love energy"?
a) To ensure the relationship remains passive and predictable
b) To maintain affection, passion, and connection over time
c) To avoid all disagreements in the relationship
d) To guarantee the relationship remains free from challenges
Q4. What happens when the "love chemistry" begins to fade?
a) The relationship becomes stronger without effort
b) Affection, passion, and intimacy deplete without recharging love energy
c) Partners naturally become more compatible
d) The love energy automatically replenishes itself
Q5. What are the three key elements of the Equilateral Heart Triangle in exceptional relationships?
a) Intimacy, thrill, and compatibility
b) Trust, attraction, and communication
c) Intimacy, thrill, and sensuality
d) Love, respect, and understanding
Q6. What does intimacy primarily involve in a relationship?
a) The psychological and emotional connection between partners
b) The initial excitement of falling in love
c) Maintaining a focus on physical attraction
d) Creating thrilling experiences outside the relationship
Q7. Why is maintaining thrill in a relationship challenging over time?
a) It depends entirely on external circumstances.
b) It fades naturally due to reduced attraction.
c) It requires effort to keep excitement and novelty alive over the years.
d) It is unnecessary for a long-term relationship.
Q8. What is the importance of balancing intimacy, thrill, and sensuality?
a) To ensure physical attraction is prioritized above all else.
b) To create a well-rounded partnership addressing emotional, mental, and physical needs.
c) To focus solely on reducing the risk of infidelity.
d) To avoid investing time in other aspects of the relationship.
Q9. What aspect of thrill is typically strongest when we first fall in love?
a) Emotional connection and trust
b) The excitement of erotic attraction and romantic projections
c) Stability and long-term commitment
d) Friendship and mutual support
Q10. What is the "Marriage Incorporated" dynamic in long-term relationships?
a) A relationship focused entirely on thrill and sensuality
b) A partnership that functions like a business, with routine and predictability replacing passion
c) A relationship solely built on deep emotional connection and meaningful communication
d) A dynamic where personal growth is prioritized over connection
Q12. What’s a risk of excessive intimacy without thrill or sensuality?
a) Increased personal independence
b) Emotional dependency, stifling personal growth
c) Thriving sexual satisfaction
d) Greater focus on novelty and excitement
Q13. What can lead to a sense of stagnation in long-term relationships?
a) High levels of intimacy combined with regular new experiences
b) Lack of effort in surprising or impressing each other
c) Prioritizing individual growth over the relationship
d) Frequent novelty in activities and communication
Q14. How can boredom manifest in a relationship?
a) By increasing the desire for intimacy and meaningful communication
b) Through repetitive conversations and lack of new experiences
c) By encouraging partners to pursue individual interests
d) Through more frequent displays of affection
Q15. What is a key risk of neglecting physical and sexual intimacy in a relationship?
a) Strengthened emotional connection
b) Increased focus on thrill and sensuality
c) Higher likelihood of dissatisfaction and potential infidelity
d) Reduced importance of communication
Q16. What’s the risk of relying too much on thrill and physical intimacy?
a) Stronger emotional connection during crises
b) Loneliness and dissatisfaction over time
c) Increased routine and predictability
d) Better conflict resolution skills
Q17. How can couples improve their sexual connection?
a) Skip foreplay to save time
b) Stick to routine sexual activities
c) Have open conversations about desires and fantasies
d) Avoid physical touch outside the bedroom
Correct answers: 1-b, 2-b, 3-b, 4-b, 5-c, 6-a, 7-c, 8-b, 9-b, 10-b, 12-b, 13-b, 14-b, 15-c, 16-b, 17-c
25th MILESTONE TEST
Q1. What is happiness?
a) It's what I make I make of it based on my positive emotion and satisfaction.
b) It's the end goal for which all human should direct all their activities.
c) It's fulfillment.
d) It's primarily the embodiment of strengths and virtues.
Q2. What is happiness according to Seligman?
a) Three levels of gratification, pleasure and inner growth
b) Three levels of experience: pleasure, virtues and purpose.
c) Three levels of living in peace, free of pain and development.
d) All of the above.
Q3. Which of this statement is true?
a) Long term and short term happiness are concurrent and work in synergy.
b) Short term happiness is more important than long term.
c) Long term happiness is more important than short term.
d) Short term happiness is often in contrast with long term.
Q4. What's the Happiness Wheel tool useful for?
a) To become aware of any imbalances between our core happiness groups.
b) To measure properly our core happiness categories.
c) To become aware of which category is putting pressure on our overall happiness.
d) All of the above.
Q5. What's a possible reason for feeling unhappy?
a) Not growing.
b) Not accepting things when not perfect.
c) Not being open to change.
d) All of the above.
Q6. What's the meaning of life's fulfillment?
a) A feeling of satisfaction at having achieved some tasks
b) A way to be fulfilled by others in life.
c) A way of measuring our self growth based on our recognized potential.
d) A perception of self worth.
Q7. What's an element of fulfillment in life?
a) A sense of purpose that allows us to find our passions.
b) Perform what we feel we're created to do.
c) Pursue important goals and ultimately live lives of authentic happiness.
d) All of the above.
Q8. What's a main different between life and self-fulfillment?
a) There is no substantial difference.
b) That life only partially influences the component of self-fulfillment.
c) That self-fulfillment is something we have substantial degree of control over it.
d) All of the above.
Q9. What variables does life's fulfillment present?
a) None, since we fully control our life.
b) The necessity of time and the effects of unpredictable events.
c) The variable of stop expecting and start appreciating.
d) All of the above.
Q10. What's necessary to achieve self-fulfillment?
a) Experience as many things as possible.
b) Knowing one self as best as possible.
c) Knowing what you like and dislike.
d) All of the above.
Q11. In the BEA HERO Code what's the response to "How should you leave the present?"
a) To the maximum.
b) Without regrets.
c) With interest.
d) To it's fullest.
Q12. How often should you be looking for happiness?
a) When we are very sad.
b) Everyday.
c) When we experience love.
d) On special occasions.
Q13. Who owns happiness?
a) People who meditate and can find peace.
b) People who are lucky and can buy it.
c) Nobody does, it's a gift reserved to some people.
d) Nobody does, it's a gift we all inherited.
Correct answers: 1-a, 2-b, 3-d, 4-d, 5-d, 6-c, 7-d, 8-c, 9-b, 10-d, 11-b, 12-d, 13-a, 14-a, 15-d
